“So do you want to be a show pony or a race horse?”  That was the question asked to a room full of successful women entrepreneurs by a male speaker. Can you imagine how it was received?  You guessed it – the all-female crowd fell silent.  Some took out their phones.  Others glanced at each other and mouthed, “Who is this guy?”.  We were all thinking it – why would a male “motivational” speaker ask a group of highly motivated rock star women if we’d like to be a show pony or a race horse?

A woman stood to her feet, and as she did she appeared to be ten feet tall.  She was blonde and confident.  She stood with such conviction that she stopped the speaker in his tracks.  She looked him straight in the eye and with projection in her voice so all could hear said, “I’m sorry, I thought you just asked a crowd full of motivated kick ass women if we want to be show ponies or race horses?  I just need to clarify because last time I checked, these women sitting in this room can be both and everything in between, when and where we want.”

Within seconds the audience were on their feet with an eruption of applause.  Seconds after, the woman put her index finger to her lips and quieted the appreciative crowd.  She turned back to the male “motivational” speaker and said empathetically, “Listen I understand, coming here and speaking to this group of women is a tough gig as a man. I’m sorry I interrupted you. You likely wanted to make us think about how we’re approaching our business and how to scale up so that we can reach our economic potential. We’ve all read the stats, we get we’re not doing it to our full capacity or the world would be a very different place – what I’d love to applaud you for, right now though, is that you’ve lit a fire in every single woman in this crowd by asking us to choose if we want to be pretty and lazy or self-involved battle axe’s because it’s that type of classification that got us all here in the first place.”

Amongst the crowd came more applause and then one woman yelled out, “We’re badass and we need more women leaders to be badass so we get what we really need to succeed!” 

Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve witnessed feminine badassery?  This was my most favorite experience of it.  It quite literally lit a fire in me to change my business model, drop the toxic people in my life who were creating chaos or drama, and get very clear on what I wanted in my life and career.  Although this example of feminine badassery was much more extreme than what I like to personally practice, it contained all the right elements to inspire change and action.

I find that feminine badassery always inspires change and action and it’s why embracing your inner badass is important.

Over the years as Mental Wellness Expert, feminine leadership and mindset trainer, I’ve dug into what feminine badassery means, why it’s beneficial and how to embody it so you can rise to greatness!

Are you ready to get your feminine badassery on? 

The Wealthy Woman Warrior™ and Success On Fire™ definition of a feminine badass: The feminine badass is one hundred percent comfortable in her own skin and she’s willing to be herself without compromise and while being a stand for what she passionately believes in and wants.

The Top 5 Benefits of Feminine Badassery:

1. Trusting yourself enough to leap even when it’s a risk.

Learning how to trust yourself is a badass process.  It means you must take risks in order to learn to trust your abilities.  Interestingly, women have an added advantage over men because of how our brains are wired (I won’t get into the science of this but you can click here to read about it yourself). When you trust yourself, taking a risk will always outweigh regret and enable you to live with more fulfillment and happiness in your life as a result.

2. Owning your life, your relationships, and your actions.

Being a feminine badass means you’re responsible for yourself and you own your behaviour. Just like the badass woman entrepreneur at the conference owned her actions of interrupting the speaker, she owned her action and did apologize for interrupting his speech.  It saved the crowd from being more frustrated, which was the road this guy was on.  She owned her actions and voiced that she had made a mistake interrupting him, but did so because being a victim and suffering through anything will never get you anywhere. Take out the victim or “show pony” and you can approach life with passion and purpose, ending each day with fulfillment and happiness.

3. Taking conviction with your words.

You’ve likely read some of my other articles or downloaded some of my literature on my research regarding words changing your DNA (If not go here to read it for yourself).  What I love about feminine badassery is those who embody it often learn how to mean what they say and say what they mean.  The result of doing this is you get a lot accomplished and people trust you’ll do what you say you’re going to.

4. Focusing on what you want and go after it!

Feminine badassery requires you to focus and be clear on what you want.  That’s always the first step – knowing what – which sometimes means you have to dig deep and “go there” to figure it out.  The second step is taking action and being prepared to have unwavering conviction to achieve it.  Your ‘want’ and ‘why’ with feminine badassery always outweighs the cost to get there.

5. Letting go of drama and trauma to achieve the greater picture.

Feminine badassery rarely allows for association with people who are drama queens because they just do not have time for it.  The more drama you have in your environment, the more trauma your mind is responding to.  Feminine badassery, allows you to be true to yourself, you’ll know when it’s time to cut the ties and move on!

Share with us your favorite example of feminine badassery below and which of the benefits you noticed were present!